Nope, Sorry, “I’m sorry” are not magic words. As kids we’re all taught that when we do wrong against someone, we’re supposed to apologize. If we disobey, we’re supposed to apologize. We’ve really been conditioned into the mentalities that not only are those two little words a vital part of the English language, they’re also magical little words that have the ability to erase events from space and time.This happens so much in relationships because more often than not that’s the only time most people pull out their bridge-burners. A good friend of mine once told me her secret for […]
Why is SEX Just Not Enough? The face of dating has dramatically changed over the past decade, either that or I have just been extremely sheltered. When did sex become not enough? Since when does a person have to have a “sexual scene”? I think the trend really started around 2000 or so when everyone got this little contraption in their homes known as a Personal Computer. Since then, the internet has ruined the face of dating forever. Someone made a comment to me, while discussing this subject that the internet had made people more free, and somewhere along the […]
I freakin FOLD.
Last year I wrote a blog about schadenfreud, which is basically the enjoyment gained from watching the misery of others. What is it about negativity that can become so completely addictive? Just like people who often suffer from schadenfreud, overly negative people seem just as addicted to the unproductive behavior.I recently dated this guy, pretty sweet kid but HORRIBLY addicted to negativity. He had a little dog that he yelled at all the time, a cat that he hated because it turned out to be female, and friends that he would constantly have petty, irrelevant fights with. When we met […]
Goddamned Salt Shakers.
I think, with many budding relationships, the biggest threat – even more than cuter boys – is their damned friends. For some reason, especially in the gay community friends can be the biggest salt shakers known to man…Its always the same story, they get their friend’s new boo off in a corner by themselves and start spilling just enough information to make the new boo insecure about their current situation. They act like they don’t know that there’s something going on between you and their friend, like you’re just some “new friend” that’s come around and they drop some tid […]
Then it hit me – I freakin HATE cards!
Lately, as mentioned before, I’ve been using poker as a metaphor for love. Texas hold ‘em in particular, and to me at least it really makes sense. It’s helped me to put dating into a perspective that I can understand, but then this morning as I’m laying in bed meditating on my life, I realized I freakin HATE card games!I always have. My closest group of friends all play this little game called “shit head”. It’s a fun enough game but it’s just WAAAAY too analog for me. I always feel like asking “can we play this on the Wii […]
Desperate and Lonely
DAILY, on my many escapades through the internets, I get a lot of messages. Maybe about 1% of those are from decent guys that I would possibly consider hanging out with in person, and the other 99% I can safely say, in all of my humility, I am WAAAY out of their league. I have this issue where I have to respond to messages I receive, if for no other reason to just be friendly. The problem is the internet consists of desperately lonely people, and bored assholes that thrive on rejecting people because they’re insecure. I am not desperately […]